This might sound crazy but over the years, I’ve realized that I don’t really mind if a guy cheats as long as he still loves, respects and performs his duty as a partner. It is something I’m going to discuss with my husband in future. I don’t like secrets. Unpopular opinion.This is not even about self esteem. Far from it. And yes, someone can love you and still have sexual inter course with another person. And I still need his attention. That is the most important. We still have to retain the attention we give one another. My opinion please.